Without a routine, it’s easy to devaluate yourself, experience a loss of confidence, procrastinate, get overwhelmed and spiral into unhealthy habits which can lead to anxiety and mild or severe depression. This can, not only, cause self-destruction but also impact your relationships. Many people claim that routine is deadly or destructive, I see it as a way of organising life and optimising health.
Routine can be disrupted by transition – moving house, relocating, changing jobs, travel, a break-up, a loss etc. It can also be disrupted by a hectic work schedule, illness, stress, etc. During these times, it’s important to remember that transition is temporary and it’s OK to feel off balance. Even the most optimistic, organised and productive person will experience transition, which may cause an impact to health in several ways.
Keeping a simple routine is imperative to maintain a healthy psychological state. I, personally, have always struggled with how to be still in times of transition, and it is something I have to actively work on. I’m lucky enough that I, now, recognise my patterns, although I still have the tendency to over-work myself and, loosely, spiral. The most important thing is to have patience, faith and also keeping that vision. When things don’t seem to be moving, keeping faith and having an understanding that the universe is acting accordingly will get you through those times of darkness, when you are feeling stuck. I know that when my routine gets disrupted, many things get knocked - I eat at different times, I’m not as mindful with food which effects my mentality and I put a lot of pressure on trying to fix or work on my current situation. Stress can lead to an over-active mind, anxious thoughts and even lack of self-worth.
So, what to do when you feel you may be on the verge of spiralling? Here are some mindful ways to nourish yourself through transition.
Plan your days
Before going to bed, make a list of what you want to achieve the next day/week whether it is going for a walk, the gym, finishing a deadline at work or other chores you want to start ticking off the list. Giving yourself a schedule and a realistic time-frame will stop you from procrastinating.
It’s about how you start the day
What’s the first thing you do in the morning? Maybe it’s checking your phone, worrying about the day ahead or getting caught up in thoughts from the day before. Here are some simple techniques to start the day right:
Upon awakening MEDITATE. When your mind is pure, take the time to sit in silence for 15 minutes and listen to the sound of your breath, alternatively, find a guided meditation online to listen to.
Before going to sleep, find an inspirational quote and write it down on a piece of paper, pop it by the side of your bed and read it first thing in the morning for motivation.
Give yourself a few minutes to have a stretch, do some yoga and/or sit down with a cuppa T.
Go for a walk – BOOST THOSE ENDORPHINS
Be mindful if/when reacting to stress
At times of stress and transition, it’s easy to project our frustrations, without intentionally causing harm or negativity. Be careful of what comes out of your mouth as those very words will determine your emotional state. Take a few mindful minutes to establish whether you should share those thoughts and frustrations with someone, ask yourself – What will I gain from sharing this? Does this person need to know this?
Talk to the RIGHT people
With the feeling of overwhelm, it’s easy to talk to anyone and everyone about your problem. We do this to release that negative energy from within, even if we’re not looking for advice or even a response. The reality is, we all have the answers within, that's called intuition. If something's really affecting you, find that person to talk to who will truly understand without judgement and then let it go.
Nourish your gut
It’s easy to over-eat or under eat in times of stress. Always remember the gut is linked to the brain. Nourish your gut, eat fulfilling, hearty and wholesome meals to help you feel alive instead of lethargic. To keep a healthy balance and mind-state, eating at the same time every day helps, giving your digestive system that healthy routine. Sip herbal teas in-between meals to reduce the urge to snack!
Nourish your mind I find that reading a book, going to a gallery or doing something creative takes me out of my thinking mind and into the present moment. Treat yourself to that day out or even a cosy day in with your blanket and books, expanding your knowledge in the process.
Avoid or limit stimulants
What day is it? What time is it? - These seem to be common questions when your routine is out of whack (OK, that maybe a bit extreme). It’s very easy to habitually have that cheeky glass of wine or eat those chocolate bars late at night because you don’t mind feeling a little tired the next day. I feel every day is important and one not worth feeling rubbish over. Stimulants will reduce the amount of time you are in a deep tate of sleep, this will have an over-all impact on your health. Having control and limiting the intake of stimulants will allow you to sleep better, bring you clarity and reduce stress. I hope this helps anyone dealing with a transition of any kind, remembering it is OK to feel emotion of any kind, allowing it so flow through you. Finding time to practice self-love and patience, letting go of anything that doesn't serve you, will allow the universe to provide you with what's needed in your life. 🖤